Comeback Man of the Year: Debonair Gentleman for a Lifetime Part 2

"So how do we achieve gentleman status and reinstall the faith and patience that woman has lost for man?"

Self-Respect- Have enough respect for yourself to place effort into your inner appearance. Before you can walk as a gentleman, you must first act as one. The amount of “Healthy Confidence” one has in himself will almost always culminate out through his pores and will be seen as his first impression. The male species must learn how to tame his ego and prideful views of himself. Once a man knows who he is on the inside and can re-evaluate his misguidance, he can then reassess his patterns.

Outer Appearance- What can’t always

be seen on the inside can often be misrepresented on the outside. Appearance is everything in this day and age no matter what anyone tells you. It can make or break a job interview, a preconceived notion, a stereotype, the respect of others, and the interactions of male and females alike. In this day of age, one must learn to adapt, develop, and then ultimately reinvent. A Gentleman knows there are a time to dress down and a time to dress up. Most definitively, however, a Gentleman knows the importance of being neatly groomed.

Respect for Others- Man has to learn to respect the woman. Once he has respect for self, then respect for the opposite sex should become second nature. Once woman begins to see that respect from man, she in turn can show respect to him but this does not come without respect for her own self-purpose of life. For my Single men, easy ways of displaying this indirect object of affection are opening and closing doors for the female species, proper speech and grammar with an emphasis on the minimization of curse words and defiling dialogue, and not putting your hands anywhere the female species doesn’t approve.

For my men in the
Dating game,

try holding your woman’s hand, buying relevant and unexpected little gifts to display an object of consciousness in her involvement in your life, planning for romantic nights to not specifically have SEX but just to spend time, and dressing up on occasions not necessarily requiring a specific wardrobe. Just as our women-folk take time to match their undergarments, get their hair and nails done, and even go thru the uncomfortable act of throwing on some high-heels, we men should allow ourselves the pleasure of stepping out in some nice, clean and sophisticated threads sometimes if not more often than that.

And for my Married men who have truly found their soul-mates and that one woman in which they have a deep affinity for, don’t let the respect disintegrate just because you are “Officially Bonded” as so many tend to do. Be willing to try different things with your spouse. Maintain that “Bonnie and Clyde” mentality for one another when in public. You may argue but in public and around friends or strangers alike, you are

“1 of 2 Equal and Interchangeable Parts.”

Let no man or woman, family or friend, enemy or stranger come between your respects for the other’s significance.

One very necessary re-invention needed regardless of married, dating, or single is the way we compliment and approach our women. A meaningful and thought provoking compliment can go a lot farther than “Hey yo ma, you sexy!” or “Damn girl, you thick as hell!” (How thick is hell anyway? LOL let me stop) If these overly saturated, mainstream uses of slang to seduce and pounce are working then 9 times out of 10 she may have some form of esteem issues or may just be an ‘Attention-Whore’. Honestly, think about how many women you call sexy on a daily…no scratch that…hourly basis. Uses of such lines are neither exclusive nor original. Try a different approach. A more personable and engaging alternative like “Miss, you look gorgeous in that outfit!” or “Something about you is intriguing to me!” or even “You are a very attractive and stimulating individual!” will get you a lot farther than one would expect. This type of intellect not only secludes you from an already overly-indulged class of failed experiences (based on the woman’s past) but also catapults you to a high level of dignity within the female perception. At the very least, she will receive you as different from the others.

One piece of wisdom that I think all men should live by is

“All women love to be treated like queens…even witches!”

With that said, don’t allow the ignorance of 1 woman not able to perceive your intelligent and responsible gestures to control how you control another…more importantly, yourself.

The most important assessment that can be made from these few of many examples to molding oneself into a Gentleman and a more ‘Signature Individual’ is that this is neither an act nor a feeling; rather this is a lifestyle in which all dignitaries should feel obligated to embody. To my striving brothers and excelling Gentlemen…

Easy Peace~